Guest Blog from my husband Matt Cain


For I am not ashamed of the Gospel for it is the power of God for Salvation to everyone who believes.  Romans 1:16

On May 8th we will have the opportunity to vote “for” or “against” a constitutional amendment (in NC) that will read as follows…

“Constitutional amendment to provide that marriage between one man and one woman is the only domestic legal union that shall be valid or recognized in the state”.

Like many of you I am not a political activist and often times find my busy life preventing me from paying too much attention to the politics and actions that go on in our state legislature.    My concern for this particular amendment was no different until I recently began researching the impact it could have for me and my family and our beliefs if it does not pass.  We will be given the opportunity to vote on this issue on Tuesday, May 8th.  As you head to the polls I would ask you to consider the following:

1.  Pro-Homosexual groups argue that this amendment is not needed since current and state law already define marriage as one man and one woman, thus, banning same -sex marriage.

FACT:  The current federal and state laws protecting marriage are under constant attack with many homosexual advocacy groups filing lawsuits challenging these laws.  In fact, in July of 2010 a federal judge in Massachusetts ruled that a portion of the current federal Defense of Marriage Act was unconstitutional.    This ruling was also supported by the current Justice Department.  Without a constitutional amendment to define marriage the current laws regarding this issue will be left up to the courts for interpretation. *

2.  Pro-Homosexual groups argue that if the amendment doesn’t pass then nothing changes and for gay marriage to be approved in the future it would have to be voted on by the citizens.

FACT:  If gay marriage is approved in the future most likely it will not be the result of a vote by the citizens.  In all five states and the district of Columbia where marriage has been redefined to include same-sex couples it was achieved ONLY through courts or by legislative action – NEVER BY A VOTE OF THE PEOPLE. *

3.  The homosexual community argue that the Marriage Protection Amendment is as “ban on gay marriage” and is discriminatory towards them.

Fact:  This is true as marriage is an exclusive institution.  It is not open to everyone as we currently don’t allow children to marry, certain blood relatives cannot get married and more than two people cannot legally marry.  Marriage was created by God, not the state, and yes it is exclusive to one man and one woman.

4.  Many of you probably believe that even if gay marriage is approved in the future it won’t have any impact on me or my family.  I originally shared this belief until I studied the issue more closely.  Consider for example what has happened regarding religious freedoms and family beliefs in states where gay marriage is legal:

Massachusetts:  After legalization of same sex marriage in 2003 the State Board of Education altered its curriculum to accommodate same sex couples.  In 2008 the kindergarten “Diversity Book Bag” included a picture book, Who’s in a Family? which depicted a variety of families including two moms or two dads.  Second graders were required to listen to the reading of King and King, which describes the story of a prince falling in love with another prince.  Parents objected and sued because they were never given the opportunity to remove their children from the classroom while the materials were being taught.  The courts dismissed their lawsuit.  **

California:  In 2007 civil unions were legal but same sex marriages were not.  Four San Diego firefighters objected to participating in the San Diego Gay Pride Parade.  Their superiors forced them to do so. **

New Jersey:  In 2007, one year after NJ legalized civil unions, the state removed a greenway tax exemption from a NJ Methodist camp, because the camp refused to host a same sex union in its marriage pavilion.  **

These are just a few of the examples I read and they were eye opening for me.  I realized that if the state declares same sex marriage, civil unions or domestic partnerships legal, you can no longer practice your beliefs that they are wrong or you could be sued for discrimination.  This is best summarized by a ruling from the courts in California where the courts found that the state’s compelling interest in extinguishing discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation superseded a religious belief, even if that burden on freedom of religion was “substantial”.

There is a lot of information out there about what this amendment could do, or what could possibly happen if it is passed but the examples above are what did happen in states where the institution of marriage was not protected and what will happen here if it is not protected.  Please understand, I a not a homophobe nor do I hate those who are homosexual.  My wife and I have many dear friends who are gay but sometimes you have to make a stand for what you believe in and what you want the world to look like for your children.  As a Christian, who believes in the Bible, I must use it as my guiding principle on this issue.  It is clear, that homosexual activity is a sin (no greater or no less than any other sin, but yet a sin) and when given an opportunity to take a stand on this issue I must vote FOR the amendment which protects the sanctity of marriage as established by God.

Regards, Matt Cain

* Let the People Vote – 10 Reason’s Why N.C. Needs a Marriage Protection Amendment – Written By:  Alysse ElHage – Spring 2011 – family north carolina magazine

** A Threat to Liberty – Same-Sex “marriage, ” Domestic Partnerships, and Civil Unions – Written By:  Marry Summa, J.D. – Summy 2011 – family north carolina magazine


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