When my daughter was little, we lost her “meow”. The “meow” that helped her sleep at night, comforted her when she was sad, and made nap time so much easier. Oh, it was a rough few days until we finally discovered where we had left it. When we lose something we need or care about, we search high, low and in every drawer. We will retrace our steps, call every store we have visited and double back to check every stop we made.
But, what if we lose something forever? Someone or something that can not be replaced: a marriage, a pet, a parent, a child or a dear friend. We still search high and low and retrace every step we made along the way, but we aren’t looking for the person because we know they aren’t there. We are searching for answers.
We are searching for an answer, someone to blame or someone to be angry with and a lot of times it is ourselves. For some reason, it makes us feel better or more in control if we can determine why or how something happened. We beg for answers: Why me, why them, why didn’t I do more, why didn’t I change, I should have . . ., I could have . . .
God promises that “testing will surely come.” (Ezekial 21:13). During times of loss or trials do not, “harden your hearts” (Hebrews 3:8) for we are told that we should “Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.” (James 1:2-4)
For me, that is a little difficult to swallow. Joy, really? That is a tall order. But, we have a choice. We can shrivel up, hide, become bitter, consumed with guilt or we can cling to our Lord and Savior.
Webster’s defines cling: 1a : to hold together b : to adhere as if glued firmly c : to hold or hold on tightly or tenaciously 2a: to have a strong emotional attachment or dependence b : to remain or linger as if resisting complete dissipation or dispersal.
Because you are my help, I sing in the shadow of your wings. My soul clings to you; your right hand upholds me. Psalm 63:7-8
This is exactly what I mean when I say cling to our Father in Heaven. We can not survive loss without him. We have to glue ourselves to Him because He will hold you up. Emotionally attach yourself to Him and claim His promises, His peace, and His word. Do not let go! Remain with Him, for He is the only one who can stop our pain. The only one who can stop the “why” conversation in your head and the only one who can offer you complete peace.
“Those on the rock are the ones who receive the word with joy when they hear it, but they have no root. They believe for a while, but in the time of testing they fall away.” Luke 8:1